Soon, I will be hitting the mark. I am excited! Should I really be? Maybe yes, maybe no. I am reminded that everything in life is about perspective. How are you evaluating and “looking” at things in your life? Is it with eyes of faith or eyes of fear? Is it with eyes of anxiety or eyes of expectation? Everything in life is hinged on perspective. Perception affects the way we look at our lives, others and circumstances. It affects how we love and live. It affects our health, our mind, our emotions, our spirit. It is so powerful, it determines whether we live or die; as in; is life worth living or are you better off dead? Perspective determines if I believe there’s a God. If there’s life after death? If so then how must I live? Needless to say more? I believe you get the point I am making.
So what is this post about? This post is about me. It is about my life and I think its appropriate to talk about me since it’s my birthday month. In many ways, this post may be about you as well because we share common experiences as humans even though the degrees and intensities might vary. Let’s get started.
What do I mean about hitting the mark? Hitting the mark generally is a term or phrase used to express an ability to be successful in an attempt or accurate in a guess. However this phrase will be used in its ironic form as well as its figurative meaning..so get your seat belts on and follow closely.
When I said, I will be hitting the mark soon, I meant I will be turning 30 soon. Is this significant? Maybe yes, maybe no. As mentioned earlier, it’s all about perspective. For you or another person, it might be turning 20, 40, 50 or 70. It could be a job promotion, graduation, relocation, ministry or marriage. I believe age 30 is significant because JESUS began his ministry at 30 and since I love JESUS and am his follower, I love to believe or think the purpose of my life is really about to begin and lived as his was. Since this can be very broad, let’s zoom into a subject, I love to talk about. Have you guessed it yet? 😉
If you guessed marriage, then you are really getting to know me. If you didn’t, then you have not been reading my blog, and you should! Lol. Anyways, just come along side with me. Here we go…I didn’t think, I would be writing and posting this because it means, I am going to be vulnerable as I let you into my heart and head and share details of my life with you. But guess what? I am and not afraid to because the LORD JESUS wants me to and has given me the grace to.
As mentioned earlier, I will be turning 30 soon which means I am in my late 20’s. According to my plan for my life; I should have graduated school as a lawyer by age 23 or 24 and be married by 25. None of this has happened. Instead, I graduated school as a pharmacist at 28 and single. Any regrets about the turn of events? Absolutely not! Why? Because, along the line; I have come to the realization, I don’t run this show. I am not in control of my life and its purpose especially since, I have given the control over to my master and LORD JESUS CHRIST and his plans and thoughts for my life is way better than I can imagine or script.(Jeremiah 29:11 ,Ephesians 3:20)
According to popular culture and many cultures, the prognosis for a woman after 25 without any potential prospects for marriage as defined by God; man and woman is not good. Inadvertently, many women come under undue pressure when you get closer or pass that 25 “deadline” and are still very single. This is not to say we need to “fix” society or cultural expectation of women. I believe the answer is perspective! Whose lens do I want to look through? Popular culture or the lens of JESUS? The lens of JESUS and his word doesn’t have any deadline according to social status for me or you. All he offers or spells out for my life and yours is not to perish in eternity John 3:16 and then he reminds us in Isaiah 55: 8-9, that our perception and lens is different from his. So, what better way is there, than to live life through his lens. If he is the author of life and has the best perspective on every aspect of it.
Sisters, there’s nowhere in my bible that I find that God commissions me or you to hurry up and get married because ” biological clock” is ticking. Instead, when I open up my bible, I find a God who is not limited by time because he doesn’t live in the constraints of time. A God who sees the end from the beginning. A God who defies limitations over and over as in the case of Sarah, Abraham’s wife. (Genesis 18: 11-14) , Elizabeth; mother of John the Baptist and many more. This is a God who reminds me not to settle for anything less than his very best, hence not to be unequally yoked. He is the God of all creation. A God of provision and abundance.
Please be reminded, this post is not to solicit marriage proposals or to enlist sympathizers. The heart of this post is to remind and encourage everyone who reads, whether single, married, parent or barren that God is good. How is God good? God’s goodness is clearly seen when we shift focus from “hitting the mark” whether it be with regards to career, marriage or whatever and seeing our lives through and from God’s lens and perspective. Until that happens, the enemy will be able to oppress, suppress and depress our lives because he has come only to steal, kill and destroy. (John 10:10)
God’s goodness is clearly seen when we shift focus from “hitting the mark” whether it be with regards to career, marriage or whatever and seeing our lives through and from God’s lens and perspective
As you and I go through life, there will be days and times, that you’ll be tempted to feel as if you are not living life the way, it should be lived because you missed or hit a mark. In those times when expectations and reality don’t line up, please remember the word of God through Paul in Philippians 3:13-14; “ No, dear brothers, I am still not all I should be, but I am bringing all my energies to bear on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I strain to reach the end of the race and receive the prize for which God is calling us up to heaven because of what Christ Jesus did for us.”
Life is not a race or competition. It is all about taking hold of JESUS and everything he has personally customized and designed for you . It’s an UPWARD calling not a TARGET calling. You are not in a race or competition and do not have to hit a target to feel loved and whole. JESUS loves and cherishes you enough that he laid down his life for you. This is all that matters. Your identity is in JESUS CHRIST alone not social status or expectation.
Life is not a race or competition. It is all about taking hold of JESUS and everything he has personally customized and designed for you . It’s an UPWARD calling not a TARGET calling.